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How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone According To Tao Of Badass

by W. Neat in Dating Tips, How To Deal With Women

tao-of-badass-friend-zoneAt first you think it’s kinda cool that she’s calling you and spending a lot of time with you. Then gradually you start to notice that she’s telling you everything, as in every single thing like the guy she’s into. Well, that’s not good. Obviously, she’s just not into you. She just thinks of you as a friend.

While being friends is a good start, you’d want to progress it to something more than just that. But how can you get out of it?

Be Generous With Your Touches

While there was the excitement of meeting her and becoming friends, you’d probably wonder how you got stuck in a such place. According to dating author Joshua Pellicer The Tao Of Badass, there are two reasons as to why guys fall into the friend zone. The first reason is that you are not touching her enough. While you have built enough rapport to establish trust and comfort, not touching her enough just doesn’t establish any sexuality between the two of you.

“In order to build that sexuality, you have to break the touch barrier early on and you have to continue to escalate the touch barrier as time goes on.”

Here’s the hint for you guys out there.

“When you first meet a woman, if you aren’t touching her within the first three to five seconds on her shoulder or … on her hand just briefly, just for maybe…two to three seconds you keep your hand on or maybe even less then take your hand off again as you’re touching,, if you’re not doing that constantly as in … at least once a minute when you’re talking, then you are probably headed toward the friend zone.”

The Tao Of Badass ebook says that while the woman is intrigued by you, she’s just not getting the right sign from you.

“We have something called anchors, emotional anchors. These emotional anchors are basically different things that we associate with different emotions. And if you can touch a woman while you’re talking to her then you will anchor the comfort of trust and of connection to any of the intrigue to your touch. So that means that every time you touch her, she’ll feel that same feeling again. And if you don’t do it when you first meet a woman, it won’t happen at all.”

So guys, it’s highly recommended that you increase the amount of touch you give to a woman, most especially during the first meeting. But remember the touch  should be a very normal, spontaneous, and casual.

Skipping The Attraction Phase

This is when you try to establish the rapport too early. Take some time to talk to a woman on the first meeting. Let the rapport come in freely, don’t force it.  Enjoy the moment.

“What you have to do in the beginning is build that intrigue, build that curiosity which is what attraction truly is.”

Take your time to build the attraction and then establish rapport.

How To Get Out Of the Friend Zone

According to Behavioral Ecology, there are some ways for you to get the woman you’re already friends with to look at you in a different way. Here are the ways.

First, show her that you have some value. This means having her realize that there other women attracted to you.  So how can you do that? Don’t ask her out but meet up with her. Invite other female friends to the same place.

“This is crucial. You’re not gonna be flirting with these other girls or anything but they are already gonna know you and they’re going to be having a conversation with you and interacting with you in sort of a regular kind of way.”

This way, your special friend will see that you are giving attention to other female friends of yours. What will happen is that your special friend is gonna want that same attention.

Second, start flirting with her and build the attraction. Use the touch system. Remember, you are trying to get out of the friend zone. Be playful once she has started to show some interest in you.

Third, finally build the rapport. This is the time when you can get into some serious conversation. Show her a part of you that she hasn’t seen before. Intrigue and surprise her.

“Create a new part of you.”

Remember all those vital points to finally get out of the friend zone.